“Living apart and at peace with myself, I came to realize more vividly the meaning of the doctrine of acceptance. To refrain from giving advice, to refrain from meddling in the affairs of others, to refrain, even though the motives be the highest, from tampering with another’s way of life – so simple, yet so difficult for an active spirit. Hands off!” – Henry Miller
Recently, I have been asked about doing something for another person, and I hope that if the person who requested me to act reads this post, your question should be answered.
I don’t like talking much (regarding the topics of life and future and backgrounds) and I dislike giving advice even more. Advice is a dangerous thing, for you might’ve meant it as advice, but when events don’t occur as expected, that advice could possibly be framed as an order. To trust someone with advice is to trust that person with your image and public’s opinion of you. (i.e. Giving advice is dangerous business.)
Yet before giving, we must receive, for without a story, there is nothing to understand and therefore nothing to change. But the receiving itself may not be a pleasant one; not everyone can stomach one’s story.
Sometimes, there is no advice to give, and the best we can do is receive and store away. But for me, if I feel that there’s nothing much I can really say on the matter, then I’d rather not receive anything, thank you very much. When I receive a story, that story weighs on me and haunts me… It comes to me in my dreams and in extreme cases, warps my reality with my thoughts.
I carry much on my shoulders, and if there is nothing that will happen by my listening of a story, then do not give me that story, for it will only be a burden rather than something that will give me greater understanding.
There will be times when I will make exceptions, for sometimes, the unneeded may be welcomed. (Do not forget that giving is a privilege, and receiving is a choice, for someone may not want your gift, and there may be no one to receive your gift.)
Never forget that your story is worth much, and in the wrong hands, could damage you for life. Words are powerful, and the changes they can make depend much on whose hands they rest upon.
Quote taken from here.
(PS: It seems like as if I have to announce this every now and then, but this blog is a personal blog, and therefore there may be topics here which talk about my current life and situation.)